Adoption Rewind

I have had many of you ask me when I was going to post again or “Any baby news?” or “Have ya’ll heard anything?”

Although I have a few blog posts brewing in my heart, it’s just not time to type those words. So here we are, sharing our adoption update.

December 1, 2014, was Allie’s first Heavenly Birthday. This day marked one year that our world was turned upside down. Sam and I knew when Allie died that we were to pursue adoption. We were at complete peace that God was leading us to walk the path towards adoption, and we are completely committed and invested in pursuing God’s plan while waiting for our “Chosen” baby/babies. Not as replacement but as restoration. Allie doesn’t need to be “replaced”. Her life was as long as God intended it to be, and she has touched more lives at 21 weeks than most people do in 60, 70, even 100 years on this earth.

“As arrows are in the hand of a mighty man; so are children of the youth.”  Psalm 127:4

After we lost Allie, I immediately began making phone calls and getting information on adoption; private adoption vs. agency, home study requirements, budgets, length of time for placement, open, semi-open and closed adoptions, adoption lawyers, consultants, etc.

We found a home study agency in NC that only focuses on home studies, and we worked diligently on paper work, physicals, finger printing, meetings, social worker visits, etc. to get our home study completed as soon as possible. Our HS was finalized in March 2014. We decided to spread our heart’s desire about adoption to our friends and family and to wait to see if anything came from our word-of-mouth strategy. A private adoption is the correct terminology. You can read our adoption timeline to read the specifics…

Sam and I knew that if nothing happened by our efforts to spread our heart’s desire that at some point we needed to look into an agency and trust that God would provide for our every need. Last summer, I found a Christian adoption consultant group called FAC on Instagram, and they quickly won me over. They were humble and full of grace as we spoke, and they acknowledged God’s favor in their work. I was so smitten by all of their posts that I called to get more information. Sam and I spoke about it and decided that it just wasn’t our time yet. We really liked this group, but we weren’t at peace about pursuing them just yet.  We discussed it and decided that if nothing happened by the end of the year, after Allie’s Birthday, we would pursue another route. And that is exactly what led me to this post. It’s been a year and a half since we last held our baby, and the pain still brings me to my knees. But I know Allie Grace died so that Joy might live and God be glorified.

“They that sow in tears shall reap in joy.” Psalm 126:5

We printed off the application to Faithful Adoption Consultants and mailed it in on December 9th. As of December 18th, we are now clients of FAC!!!! I was very excited about this new joy journey, but I’d be lying if I said I wasn’t scared. Most of their families are matched within 4-6 months of becoming active. We are now almost in our 6th month of waiting, and we have been given lots of cases (22 total cases since we first started), but so fa,r we have not been matched.

To be continued…